Play is CRUCIAL to our lives. It can improve brain function, reduce stress, improve relationships, boost your physical activity, and of course, bring you more pleasure in the bedroom. But the biggest reason to play? BECAUSE IT FEELS REALLY GOOD!
Play can be defined as “an action you do that brings you a significant amount of joy without offering a specific result.” In other words, quit focusing on the outcome and enjoy the ride – in the bedroom and outside of it.
Easier said than done? Yes, but it’s never too late to change your habits. Check out this article about the benefits if you want more reasons to play.
Before you tell me that you just don’t have the time, know that I’m right there with you. I fall into this trap like everyone else sometimes. I’m a full time sexologist and a full time mom, so I have a million things on my to do list everyday just like you do.
Here’s the thing: when I am NOT prioritizing pleasure, when I haven’t filled my cup with play and joy and connection… I am not as kind and generous. I am not as efficient. I am not as productive. I am not the kind of mom I want to be. I am not even at my best as a coach. When I am out of tune with my own playful pleasure practices, I am less ME. When I reconnect with myself through living playfully, and making time for pleasure in the bedroom and beyond, I am so much more able to be in service to others. And to be who I truly am – my favorite version of me.
Ask yourself, what is it costing me to NOT prioritize my pleasure?
Often we can shift an attitude, and make mundane moments into play- then it doesn’t even require more time. Start by giving yourself permission to do things that feel good and nourish you. Sometimes we have to get really creative to make the time and space. But it saves time in the end, and if it’s in line with your values, too, then it’s part of what makes life worth living, right?
What motivates you? What values support your actions? How would you LIKE to show up for yourself and prioritize your pleasure? Want to explore these questions together? Book yourself a call with me here! Or if you’re a couple wanting to answer these questions together in a guided, play-centered session, book here!