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The Modern Version of “Hairy Palms”
Are you old enough to have heard that self pleasure would give you hairy palms? Or make you go blind? These were common things we told people about the dangers of touching their "private parts." Ridiculous, right? Except nowadays we've just replaced those myths with...
Not swept off your feet by desire? Here’s how to invite it in.
I've written before about the difference between wanting and entitlement — how owning a want doesn't require anyone else to do anything. It's yours before it's ever shared. But wanting is only half of it. The other half is what you do with it. And this is where I see...
What if we’ve been defining “it” wrong this whole time?
I ask the question, "What is sex to you?" on a regular basis — with clients, and recently in a group conversation inside Rekindled Circle, our membership for couples ready to feel like lovers again. In one of these many conversations about what sex is, the...
Being in the Mood is Overrated
Can I tell you something that took me years of training — and honestly, a lot of living — to really understand? Being "in the mood" is overrated, when it comes to what we need to experience pleasure. You don't have to already feel turned on and raring to go in order...
Four Keys to Climax
If you're having trouble with orgasms, no matter what anatomy you have, there are four basic keys - or areas to improve - for more pleasure and much better orgasms. 1. How present and open to receiving pleasure in your body are you? This is a big area where people...
Pressure is the Nemesis of Pleasure
Pressure kills desire. Pressure (usually from ourselves, internalized from outside messaging) robs us of authentic intimacy. Pressure is the arch nemesis of pleasure. Seriously. Here are the 2 biggest ways I see that show up for my clients: Having sex when you don’t...
About Julia
Julia, a Board-Certified Sexologist, passionately dedicates her days to dispelling myths and shining light on taboo topics, so that you can shine brighter, too.
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