How Are Things, Pleasure-Wise?
The Modern Version of “Hairy Palms”
Are you old enough to have heard that self pleasure would give you hairy palms? Or make you go blind? These were common things we told people about the dangers of touching their "private parts." Ridiculous, right? Except nowadays we've just replaced those myths with...
Not swept off your feet by desire? Here’s how to invite it in.
I've written before about the difference between wanting and entitlement — how owning a want doesn't require anyone else to do anything. It's yours before it's ever shared. But wanting is only half of it. The other half is what you do with it. And this is where I see...
Why “No” Might Be the Sexiest Word in Your Relationship
Let's talk about boundaries (yes, really) I want to talk about boundaries today, and I already know how that lands for most people. Some of you just tensed up a little. Ugh, boundaries. That sounds like a hard conversation. Others are thinking, I'm already good at...
What if we’ve been defining “it” wrong this whole time?
I ask the question, "What is sex to you?" on a regular basis — with clients, and recently in a group conversation inside Rekindled Circle, our membership for couples ready to feel like lovers again. In one of these many conversations about what sex is, the...
Being in the Mood is Overrated
Can I tell you something that took me years of training — and honestly, a lot of living — to really understand? Being "in the mood" is overrated, when it comes to what we need to experience pleasure. You don't have to already feel turned on and raring to go in order...
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Julia, a Board-Certified Sexologist, passionately dedicates her days to dispelling myths and shining light on taboo topics, so that you can shine brighter, too.
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